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Many of us have heard the words, “Feel your feelings,” but what exactly does that mean? Such a statement often comes off as vague and confusing. When hit with a wave of anxiety, are we not feeling it? Well, yes and no. Sitting with emotions, AKA, “feeling your feelings,” is more than just feeling it; it is also processing it from a place of curiosity and non-judgment.

In many circles, there is a growing trend to only focus on the positive. This thought-process touts the idea that if you solely focus on the “good,” you can always be happy and avoid things like sadness, pain, hurt, and anger. Some will say just drink more tea, consume only organic food, use this or that supplement, get into aromatherapy, smile more, or do more yoga.

How often to do you think about your relationship? What do you think is important in a relationship? What makes a relationship good? People often list things like trust, communication, or intimacy, and there are countless theories of love that try to get at the secret ingredients of a good relationship. One popular theory is Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love: