December 2, 2021

Is Social Media Telling You Have Mental Health Struggles?

Social media has served as an important platform for increasing awareness of mental health and helping reduce the stigma of mental health disorders. Many people have found connection on social media with others who are also struggling, as well as a community to share and express themselves in a way that maybe they wouldn’t have felt comfortable before.
September 28, 2021

Finding the Right Therapist

Beyond the stigma of therapy participation, there is a bigger challenge in FINDING THE RIGHT THERAPIST. As a therapist, I am aware that the most valuable part of treatment with a client and the best indicator of success is the therapeutic alliance. This alliance is measured by the patient’s perception of their relationships with the therapist, and is important in the patient’s willingness to share and engage in the therapeutic process.
August 31, 2021

Mental Health and Blame

A big part of the mental health space is emotive language and vocabulary. Therefore, it’s long overdue that we talk about “Blame Culture” and how much of a large part self-criticalness is at the core of the most common mental health issues. Blame is often a means of attempting to hold ourselves accountable. However, it often is excessive and leads to self-gaslighting that involves nitpicking, fault-finding, complaining, exonerating the role that mental health plays.
August 27, 2021

Back to School Rules!

Nearly 93% of households with school aged children reported some form of distance learning during the Covid-19 pandemic (US Census Bureau, 2020). As children prepare to make the transition back to an in-person learning environment, which has a plethora of benefits including peer motivation, social interaction, and an overall better structured learning environment; The transition also may come with some mental health challenges including social anxiety, lack of social skills, and fear.
April 22, 2021

The Shame, Sadness and Isolation of Infertility

For those of you reading and connecting with this blog - first note - You Are Not Alone - I see you and feel with you. Infertility and pregnancy struggles can be a long and lonely journey for many. The stigma associated with infertility can also make the grief and loss that much harder, and the wide range of emotions can make it hard to process. Coupled with the fact that not many talk about it, the secrecy, shame and isolation that goes with infertility struggles can affect your mental health. My infertility struggles followed the same path as many.
April 20, 2021

Shame and Amygdala

The amygdala is a collection of nuclei near the base of the brain – the limbic system - where emotions are given meaning, remembered, and attached to associations, as well as responses to them (emotional memories). The amygdala is also known for its role in the processing of fear. In infants, a distress cry helps signal to caretakers to come “save” them. It toddlers, this same response may show up, or they may attempt to “flee” the danger by crawling away. Later in life, a “fight” back response might show up in anger or conflict.
March 23, 2021

Ode To Single Moms

Up by 5 a.m. prepping bottles, packing school lunches on your own, doing a load of laundry, responding to the teacher’s email, placing diaper bags in the car so you do not have to make three different trips because you don’t have an extra hand to help ,does any of this sound familiar? If it does, I imagine, “ you”, my lovely reader, are living the life of a single mother. It is by far the hardest, unpaid job that a woman will ever have, while it has its rewards, it is still very challenging.
February 1, 2021

New Year, New Goals

This past year has been absolutely bonkers! We’ve experienced social injustice, a Presidential election, and an invisible virus that has the ability to shift the entire world as we formally knew it. Bruised, afraid, intensely watching the news, social distancing, and wearing a mask, 2020 was a challenging and heartbreaking year for many. Typically, the beginning of a new year is the time where we reflect on our past year, re-evaluate what's important to us, and set new goals for the upcoming year. Interestingly enough, most new year's resolutions are broken within the first week of the new year.
January 22, 2021

Gaining Awareness Through The Johari Window Model

One of the key factors about emotional intelligence laid out by Dr. Jeanne Segal is self-awareness. Self-awareness is described by Dr. Segal as the ability “to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.”